Going from being married and settled to being divorced and wondering what in the world you’re going to do next is not easy. This is especially true if you’re a mother – there are so many different things to worry about. There is the loss of your spouse’s income, the worrying you will do for your children and how the divorce will affect them and somewhere on the back burner – your own fears and pain. This article is full of survival tips for divorced mothers, helping you move on and start a new life.
As you lose your spouse’s income, things can become much more difficult, especially if you were a stay at home mom previously. The first thing you need to do is find a steady, reliable source of income to help you get through these difficult times. Find something you are good at and apply for jobs in your local area. While single mothers have to juggle childcare and work, finding a job with the same hours as your child’s school hours will be helpful. If you can apply for a job in their school, that’s even better. Look at your options and think of your skills, talents, etc. that might help you get a reliable source of income for you and your children.
Another difficult thing you may have to deal with when you get divorced is loneliness. This can be a very terrible thing to go through and there are several ways you can reduce or eliminate your loneliness. Keep your friends close by at this time – they will be a great source of strength for you. Go out with them when you can and allow yourself to have a little fun. This can do wonders for your loneliness. Family is important too. Talk with the ones you love and let them know how you’re feeling. If the loneliness gets very difficult, consider joining some type of counseling or group therapy. Being able to talk with others who have been there can be very helpful.
Your worry for your children’s feelings and emotional health will probably be a huge source of stress for you. Talk with your kids about their feelings and communicate with them. Of course, you want to avoid discussing the things that caused your divorce or saying anything negative about your ex spouse but keeping communication lines open is very important. Ask them about their feelings and talk about your own feelings with them. Assure them that everything is going to be fine and that you are still a family – also, that both of their parents love them very much. This will help them become better adjusted to the situation and divorce.
As you become stronger, these worries and problems will not bother you as much – but for now, it’s important to focus on these things. Use the tips and tricks in this article to help you survive divorce and the pain, fear and stress it leaves you with.